Kathi:
Hey, my friend What's up and welcome back to another episode of Do Life Big. I am so excited to have you here today. Because today, I have a very special guest on Do Life Big. It's my friend Janice and you are going to love what she has to share today. Janice is a licensed therapist now for over 32 years. She's also a clairvoyant, empathy and a psychic medium. How cool is that. And she's internationally known as the intuitive therapist where she helps women in midlife uncover their true authentic selves. So they can define their purpose, cultivate inner peace, and feel free. She's also published a book called The Intuitive Therapist. And she also is the host of the podcast called The Intuitive Therapist. She is going to share so much wisdom, she has so many gifts to share today. And I cannot wait to have you on today. So thanks so much for being here, Janice.
Janice:
So happy to be here. We were talking a little bit before no matter how exciting this is. Let's talk about my stuff. Like you'd like to talk about your stuff.
Kathi:
So yes, I know I love. I love this. I love like the whole psychic medium, and oh my gosh, I am into all of that stuff. And so I know the listeners are going to love everything that you have to share today. So why don't we start out by just having you share a little bit about yourself? Like specifically, I would love for you to share, you know a little bit about your journey and how you got onto this path of you know, becoming the licensed therapist, and going on to become the intuitive therapist now with your own business.
Janice:
Yeah, yeah, I've been a therapist like a separate 32 years going on 33. And my life as a therapist was pretty traditional process, were seeing each other see a client one session after the next for about 18 years. And then all of a sudden, I turned 40… 15 years ago, everything changed everything. The minute I turned 40, my gifts opened up, and I could hear things and see things and feel things and know things that I would have known before my thinking mind. And I'm also talking to dead people. So it's like, What in the world and I've been on my spiritual journey since I was 25. And intermittently had been poked and prodded and directed into tarot card. So we're certain books are learning about all the metaphysical things, right. And so when this happened to me, my gifts opened up at 40. Like I said, everything changed who I was channeling. So I could no longer find myself. It's like this normal human being it was now an elevated experience. And so what that did is that it totally shifted not only how I lived as a human being as a woman, but also how I did my work. Because I was getting to things at such a rapid rate with clients that would take and I say this very humbly, it would take therapists six months to get to what I could see in 10 minutes.
And so there was massive progress in a very short amount of time. And it just like it's electric the work. So that's kind of how I got to where I am and then people are like, Oh, you're an intuitive therapists. You're an intuitive therapist. I'm like, Well, yeah, I guess I am and so I trademark that. And that's what my book is about. And my podcast and and all the work that I do right now. It was really, especially now in my mid 50s to really help women in the second part of life really, really ignite. Oh aspects.
Kathi:
Oh my gosh, I love that so much. So I think it's so cool that you said that you can talk to dead people, by the way. That is like, it was like, Oh, can you connect with your loved ones that have passed and can you help other people connect with their loved ones who have also passed?
Janice:
Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's what a is one of the most magical things I find doing this work. I do different kinds of readings. I do live readings where we look at your life, I can do business readings, we do mediumship readings, where we connect with people who have passed, you know, my dad passed six years ago. And so he was around me a lot before I got married, after I got married, because he knows my husband's got my back is kind of backed off of it. But I feel him and and just, you know, maybe your listeners can relate to this. My daddy used to wear cologne he's from an older generation, okay, like, it's fine. He would come around me and I would smell him. But I would hear him too. So the beauty of being able to help somebody connect with a loved one who's past is it just provides this amazing healing, that all the questions that have swarmed around in their brain, are they okay? Are they proud of me? Do they love me? Here's a specific thing that nobody else would know. Or here's how specifically, they would say that, here's what they look like to get those details is so powerful. And you know, readings change people's lives. I take no credit on the channel. I acknowledged that. But there are some of the most powerful experiences I've had channeling love once.
Kathi:
Wow, that is so so awesome. I love that. So with all these gifts that you have, what are some of the gifts that you have? And then do you think that everybody has these certain gifts? Or do you think that certain people, like it's easier to come to them than it is for others? Or? Yeah.
Janice:
Great question. Great question. So I like primary gift is a part of wines. So that means clear, seeing a clear is it means clear. And so you can clearly see clearly here, clearly know, clearly feel, okay. And so my guides, I work with my guide team, my spirit guide, team, and spirit, and they show me images, words, people, places, I see people's energy, I see the relationships, I see the blocks, I see the solutions, I see their emotions, I see their thoughts before they voiced them. So a lot of times, you'll see what came away from you even now, because I'm being shown things, right. And so it's literally, I'll see words in different fonts and different sizes, I'll see relationships, where one person is dominant, because they're stepping forward. Another one is more passive. So I'm literally seeing everything I need to see. And then also as an empath, I literally and metaphorically feel what my clients feel. So it could be in their body, there's a part of their body that struggling, I'll feel it in me, and then I'll talk to them about it.
Kathi:
That is incredible.
Janice:
It is it is beyond cool. And I do body scans to see how things are going on health wise, and they help me with that. And then metaphorically, something could be going on in my body, that when I share it means something not that it's actually happening. But it's a metaphor, right. And so, as a psychic, I get information that about somebody that I wouldn't know beforehand. So it just information comes to me. So I get to stuff really, really fast. And that is a psychic medium, which is different than a medium, psychic medium, it blends both the ability to have psychic insight, and also to be able to channel I believe everybody has these gifts. I really do. They're people that are born with them, and they come out from the womb, they're like, Whoa, I can talk to dead people. I know things. I have, I can predict things. And that can be very, very scary for young kids, you know, and a lot of times unless you're born into a family where that's understood or tolerated or known about, most often, people, little little kids will be discouraged from sharing your gifts, right? I believe everybody's intuitive. I believe everybody has the capacity to connect with loved ones. They just don't know how. So it's so fun to me to help people figure out how to do that.
Kathi:
That is so cool. I mean, I definitely have a little bit of that psychic ability. I definitely do. I do have I have like dreams that I will all of a sudden dream. And it will be about like something happening to someone in my family. And then I'll call them and be like, Oh my gosh, like what the heck, I just had this dream about Daddy had something happened with his eye and he had to go to the emergency room and my mom was like, Oh my God, how did you know that? Your father just had to go to the hospital last night for his eye and like weird things like yeah, I definitely do have like that. And I love that though, you know, can be so helpful. I feel like wonderful. I did it. You love it. So, in terms of now what you do so you work with only women, right?
Janice:
My practice is like 99% women.
Kathi:
So you work with women now who are midlife and they come to you and they have these struggles. You know that now that they're in in midlife, yes. What would you say was maybe one or two of the top struggles that you see of women in midlife when they come to you? And maybe if you could touch on how you would help them? How would you help that person work through that? In that situation?
Janice:
One of the biggest struggles that I'm encountering when, when it comes to the women I speak with, is that they've let life get in the way they they leaned into their role so much, that when they stopped needing to fulfill those roles, they're like, Oh, who am I? Yeah, what am I gonna do with the rest of my life? You know, do I even know myself? Who have fiber comm so we answer all those questions. Because really, the reason why I put the word really ignite into my upcoming free training, is because that's really all it is. It's not that we women don't know each other. Each of us has different versions of ourselves as we grow up. It's just different phases, and different stages. And so some might consider midlife chapter two, right? But it's really who you are 15 and beyond, and you know, yourself better than you realize. It's just maybe, maybe you fail to pay attention to yourself over time. And so here you are, maybe you're an empty nester, or you're divorced, and you have a child, or you're at this precipice in your life, professionally and financially. And you say, Oh, my God, what am I going to do? Yeah, what skills do I have? Who am I, and cannot really change my mind? And so when I work with women, we we get into the truth of who they are, which is they already know this, what they love to do what they don't they, women who are in their 50s are at a point that they know what they will want, except, and they know who they aren't, they're not. So I pride myself in telling clients, I don't know has no place in our work. Right? I don't care how it comes up. But you are not to say that you're here to work. Let's do the work. Right. Right.
So kind of losing yourself to your life is a big one. And it's not a bad thing. It's just It's just what happens. Women balance a lot, and tend not to focus on themselves. Like they'll put themselves last. Yeah, because they're raising kids and they're, they're doing a house or they're working and doing all of that. And then they get to a point where, holy crap. Where am I? What am I going to be doing? So we lean into that? Others are more of building their self esteem as they have focused on themselves, right.
So we talked about a lot body image, right? In your 50s when women get into perimenopause and menopause. I can't wait for this. You know, I was not raised, you know, your body's gonna do some funky stuff. Things are gonna sag and he didn't think they would say you're gonna get that where you didn't think you could get back and can't lose it. Get this tire around. Oh, unbelievable. Yeah, changes, your moods change and you can't lose weight. And then your energy changes. You feel depleted and you can't get rest because you haven't hot flashes. It's the whole thing. So even and it's still funny because even if somebody told me about that, I would not have believed them. Oh my god. But now girl, you just wait.
Kathi:
I know I hear I hear the stories and I'm like, This is gonna be fun.
Janice:
It's not Yeah, I do we it midlife get used to this new body? Do we keep doing the diets and doing the exercise and trying to lose the weight to be more acceptable to other people? Or do we learn how to practice self acceptance and be good but maybe 10,15 extra pounds? or blurred vision right? That don't fit that used to fit two years ago. So it's it's really my goal is to really have a women in midlife have a midlife mentality makeover because it's truly the quality of our love that is determined by a how we perceive it. And the thoughts that we choose to think about it. Yeah, of course. The action that we take. Yeah, so that's my goal.
Kathi:
Oh my gosh, I love that though. It's so true. And when you were talking about to how women like almost lose themselves because they put themselves on the back burner, I mean, I even see that happen like to you know, women you know when they have their first baby you know, they may have had this career and that's what they that's what they did. That's what they were known for. Like that was their whole identity. And then they give that up to be you know, the stay at home mom, and then they can get so consumed that I will hear them saying even friends of mine like I have completely lost myself. I was somebody before I had a baby. And I can be a mom and I can be this. You know, other thing I need to get that back. And so it is it's so I feel like it's so easy for women like you were saying to constantly just put themselves on the backburner, and they put everything else and everybody else's needs in front of theirs. And then all of a sudden, Time ticks by and it's like, you wake up and you're like, What in the heck am I doing?
Janice:
Right? What's going on with my life? Oh, yes. Oh, yeah.
Kathi:
So what tip or advice would you give if you have someone right now who's, you know, listening to this episode, and they are in that place where, okay, this sounds like me, and I'm, I have been that person. I've been putting myself on the back burner. I've been putting my dreams and my goals on the back burner, just everything. And I almost feel really overwhelmed by it. Were I don't even know where to begin. Where would you tell them to start?
Janice:
One of my favorite activities, I do it every morning, before I start my day is a journal. Journal. I do a I kind of get it all out. And I start to really focus on the beliefs I'm holding, right? And do some narration around that, whether their fears, and you could end up starting with a 100 beliefs, right? This is your like Zona genius here with the limiting beliefs. When you get into midlife, and you're 50, and all these things have changed. It's not enough to have it all mushed up in the air in your brain, it's just not.
So I pride myself in getting it all out every morning, right? And then you ask the universe, show me how to see this differently. Where do I start? And then you journal about that? And that is true, really, it's amazing how it shifts to the belief. Because you know very well, any bad belief anybody has about themselves. It's not true. Because in order for a belief to be true, it has to be true. Across the board up, down, left and right for everybody all the time. Exactly. All the time. Right. Yeah. So if you say it, you know, I'm a good person. Okay. Yeah, most people are good and right. The sun always shines, even if it's covered by clouds. Yep. The grass is always green, even if it's dry and yellow it Yeah, green, right. It's just certain beliefs that are just truth. And I tell women all the time, I'm sure you do, too. No bad belief is true. Right? What what what's happening is that your ego is letting you get a sense of what not to think anymore, and the underlying issues underneath. And so that's the very first thing is to kind of have this verbal diarrhea on your paper every day, get it out, clean the muck out of your head. Know what you think and why. Because the majority of the time, you believe that you don't know what to do or when it's next steps to take. But if you just take time with yourself again, take time with yourself takes 5-10 minutes, right? Even if you need to wake up 30 minutes before everybody else to have your meat con and that's a huge thing. It's how do you prioritize you when you when you're so busy? When many women in midlife are insanely busy still, right? They're still raising kids, they're, they still have to pay the bills are still managing the house, you're still doing laundry, cooking, dishes, being a wife, working all of that. So it's very easy to lose yourself and to to believe that you don't know yourself. So journaling to me is one of the best ways to…
Kathi:
Get a journal friends.
Janice:
Get a journal and also take time to write down. If there were no limitations. No limitations of time, energy, money, opportunity, geography, nothing. What would you love to do?
Kathi:
I know it's never too late. It doesn't matter.
Janice:
Definitely. And that's one of the that's one of the concerns that that women in midlife have. It's like, oh my god, you know, I'm 50-55-60. What? I'm gonna start all over again. Yes. Right. So then they don't do anything. Like Well, screw it. I'm not gonna do anything. I'm just gonna accept that this isn't the best life catch.
Kathi:
Yeah. Oh, I hate that.
Janice:
The resignation is very sad. And I've encountered so many women who want better and more for their life. Right? And the thing is, how do they do it? Where do they start? And they don't know that inside my program, awaken the line. We lean into that.
Kathi:
What do we what is it called again?
Janice:
Awakened and aligned.
Kathi:
Awaken and align. Oh, I love that. That is so awesome. Oh my gosh, it is. So it's so true, though. Because you get caught up in life. It's go go go. The clock is ticking. All of a sudden you wake up and you're like, oh my gosh, I'm 50 years old or I'm 52 years old. And then all of a sudden you start the whole I should have been so much further along than I am by now or add you into my life to be the Certain Way at this age and now it's not. And then that's when all those Bs stories pop into your head. Because then you make it mean that well, you're obviously a failure because you envisioned it to be this way, and it didn't happen. So you suck, your failure, don't bother now it's too late. And then all those stories, yeah. And it's just like, and even just, you know, I like how you were saying, to make sure you have some time to just write and journal and get it out. And even just like, you know, sitting down and being in the silence for a few minutes, like, people just don't do it. I mean, I even had a hard time
Janice:
It’s anxiety producing because most people equate doing with accomplishing and ever so busy doing that the idea of not doing they don't see as actually doing, (right, exactly) your best kind of doing is doing nothing.
Kathi:
Yes, it's so true. People think, Oh, I checked it off my list. I did the thing I did. And they were that busyness like a frickin badge of honor. You know what I mean? Like, look at me, and all the things I did. It's like, well, you're burnt out, completely stressed, overwhelmed, you have anxiety, like,
Janice:
How's that working for you?
Kathi:
How's that working out? You know, it was just two weekends ago, I actually have two weekends ago, we had this like, random like opportunity to be able to stay at this really nice beach house right on the beach. And I literally walk out the back doors, and like your feet are in the sand. And it had this like huge Tiki hut outside of a bar. And all these Adirondack chairs, were I mean, the ocean is right there. And I spent that entire time just sitting in the chair, you know, looking at the ocean, just and I was looking at my husband, and I'm like, we definitely don't do this on off, you know, just No TVs, no phones, no work. Just literally sitting there listening to the tropical birds fly around and watching the kids play in the sand and looking at the ocean waves crashing to shore and seeing the dolphin. I mean, it's like, it is so therapeutic to do that. Yeah.
Janice:
And people only plan me time for a vacation. Right? And if you have kids, it's kind of not me time because you still be a mom and you still be in life. And you're still doing the cooking and the washing and right. So it's it's just you're doing you in a different place. But my purpose is to help women become especially women in midlife, I do work with women who are younger than their 50s. But to be more intentional of how you live your life, yeah. And intention is can be very simple, right? Because if if, if your ultimate goal is to be happy, right, feel passion, feel purpose, be happy and feel that sense of freedom, then it comes from incremental things that you do for. And again, I always say get out of your head, get it on paper, because you know very well, I know you teach this to people, your clients that when your thoughts are on autopilot, you tend to believe them.
Kathi:
Oh, yeah.
Janice:
You don’t take time to discredit them. And you don't take time to prove them wrong. And you don't take time. Like you and I are sitting here there's a double screen. And you don't take time to look at your way Your ego is telling you as something separate from you. We're not our thoughts. We're not our beliefs. I know. Yes. Yeah. Because it's so automatic. We nobody taught me to question my thoughts. And it wasn't until probably in my mid 40s. I was like, Oh, that is brilliant. Yeah. Yes. If I have a crappy thought, like, you know, no, no, I do not want to feel that way you go, you can suck it. This is. Right. So I want women to feel that kind of empowerment. Yes. choose for themselves, how they think how they feel what they believe, and to know how capable they are to achieve whatever they want to achieve that even though their blocks in the way we figure those out. And so they get to where they want to go. And then life is easier. So easy, but it's easier. Right? Exactly. And that’s where sense of freedom comes from.
Kathi:
Oh, I know. I love that so much. It's so true. You know, I didn't start to wake up to this until I was 30 You know, when some people go their whole life and never really wake up to it. So I think it's great that you help immerse. Yeah, exactly. Whatever, whenever it pops into your mind whenever you realize it is better than never realized.
Janice:
Yes, amen.
Kathi:
Now, what do you say? Do you ever have anybody come to you who's like struggling and they have realized that they've put themselves on the back burner like this. And they do want to make these changes in their life. And they maybe they do want to start the business? Or maybe they want to, like leave their relationship or make these changes or whatever it is, but then they don't have the support from their significant other at home. Have you ever encountered that at all? And how do you help that person?
Janice:
Yeah, I love this because one of the biggest fears that I hear from women is if I change what are the the consequences of that amount of relationships. Am I gonna have to divorce my husband or wife? Or maybe are my children going to be angry at me, because I'm choosing me and I'm having stronger boundaries or what kind of friends are gonna fall away? Like, it's a it's a big fear. And yet there is such a longing for these women to embody their truth, their authenticity and the future self that they are so connected with. Right? So when I encounter women like this, like one of the first things is I want to get their vision. I want to put them already in the future because they've already imagined it. Right, right. most luxurious type of law I wanted to go are you how do you think what do you believe? What do you experience on a daily basis that would allow you to feel passion filled, reignited, purposeful, free, you know, just in that zone of, I call it super flow?
Yeah, it's just where you're so present. And you're in the flow, like, your mind is not agenda based. It's being based. So whatever happens, it's just you just flowing from one thing to the next. Even if your mind says, Oh, my God, what do you do and making lunch when you know, you got to finish his report? Or you know, you got to pick up your kid from school or send that email? Why are you watching? Why are you watching Days of Our Lives? You know, it's yeah, it's those things that come in that, that fight against your, your natural inclination just to flow. So super flow to me is to you know, yourself, well, you know, what you want? And the struggle is how do I make it happen? So as long as you know, those first two pieces than the plan is pretty, pretty easy. How do you start with these micro agreements? I call it self integrity, right?
Your promises to yourself, and the more personal currency you build up with that, the more likely you're going to take the bigger leaps of faith. So we identify what you can do on the small term each day, journaling, taking time to breathe and meditate and connect yourself. And then allowing yourself your ego to give your ego a break. So that what comes through it's like, okay, Janice, eat those nuts. Okay. Take the dog out. Okay, Janice, work on this, right? It's just, okay.
Kathi:
Oh, I like that. And so you do you teach this in your program to like, do you help people do all this?
Janice:
Yeah. It's been so exciting. Like, honestly, when I talk about this with people, and I go, you know, I share the story about how I came to this particular niche, and 99% of us when we specialize in something, I guarantee you, you've shared the story of you as well, and the podcast episode, we did together, but it comes from your own experience, you get to realize, wait a minute, I've gone through this. And if I've gone through it and overcome it, and I have some tips, tricks, just feels like I could help other people. Right. (Yes, exactly). That's how things have shifted. And it wasn't until now that I feel like I'm standing in my purpose in a multitude of ways, right?
To be able to have women kind of we reinvigorate their life where you imagine all the reasons and here we are. Mercury Retrograde began today, April 1st going through the 25th. This is all about the release, reexamined, reestablish redefined. Its reimagine. It's all of that. (Oh, I love that). Yeah, they're right. So we get to ride a wave of the newness. And so it turned out it's interesting because I had been talking to a friend a while back. And someone wrote to me a woman. This is before things became clear to me. And she wrote to me, she really struggled with my past path and purpose. And she was in midlife has to like, Oh, snap. I can't help her. I don't know how to do that. But I don't know. I don't have a plan. So this friend of mine who actually had been a former client of mine years back, we've become quite good friends. So Janice, you helped me do that. And you got to think about all the other women in the past 32 years. You've actually helped do that. Now. It's like, that was my oh my goodness moment.
Kathi:
Oh my God.
Janice:
And so that was my goal to really develop a process about how to do that midlife.
Kathi:
That is amazing.
…that in your 20s It's way different.
Janice:
Yeah, because you're constantly changing like you said, it's constantly changing. That is so incredible, though I love it. You can tell I can just see that our around you.
Light is good.
Kathi:
The light is good. Give me Yes. Oh my gosh, I love it so much. So when people come to work with you, do you have people from all different paths of life? Like do you have like entrepreneurs and you have people who are in corporate? Do you have stay at home moms? You are people who were a stay at home moms? Or do you have all those different? Do you have like a nearly everything and anything you need?
Janice:
You name it? I have people who are retired, I have people who are not who are still working everything you you named divorced with kids to raise, you know, yeah, it's, it's across the gamut. So and it doesn't matter. It's just a matter of getting to focus where it needs to be, which is where you are, and where you want to go.
Kathi:
Oh my gosh, I love that. And, you know, so many people, I feel like go through life, and they just just feel like this is it. Like, I'm just going to do this. There's nothing else I'm just going to clock in and clock out. I'm going to just retire when I'm 55 or 65, or whatever that age is. And I hope to God that I'm healthy and well enough and have the money to be able to travel or to do this or to live out my dreams. And it's like, but you don't need to wait to do it. You can do you should do now. You know I always say that because you're not guaranteed tomorrow. So you are only guaranteed right now in this moment. So you know act on that intuition. I love that. That intuition. Just having that voice that whisper inside and so many people ignore it right?
Janice:
Oh, yeah. Yeah. And I think a lot of people tend to wait too late to live their, their best life. Yeah. Wait, because you again, you got the roles to fill. And you've got the expectations to meet a lot of women say, you know, I, I have been all my life meeting everybody else's expectations. What happens if I actually do me? Where are they? They're gonna see this different version of Dan and Nicobar? You, you? You alien? Like we don't know this version of you that maybe it's more outspoken or maybe says no, or maybe is more confident, more clear. So it's being able to harness the energy that that's okay. You want to be that right? And if somebody else is uncomfortable with that that's on them. Right? As long as you have good intentions, and you're showing up in your truth. And you're showing up in this liberated sense. Nine times out of 10, you're not going to care about what anybody thinks anyway, because you're just good with you. That was a phrase for me that stuck with me for the past year. I just want to help women, be good with them. (Oh my gosh, yes).
And that means having this calm, not trying to perform all these roles and pretend it's no like, I'm, I'm okay. I'm okay. If I don't go to the movies. Or I'm okay. If I don't get married. Or I'm okay. If I don't have kids. Or I'm okay if I work and get my affirmation from work. Right. Good. See, and if you're not, I can have compassion for you. You're not I don't take it personally. But I'm good. I finally gotten to that point in my life, where I can truly say that because I, I grew up very sheltered. And I didn't, I was not taught how to think for myself. I wasn't taught how to choose for myself. I was taught to rely on what my dad decided was going to happen. And my mom too. Yep. And so when I, when I say late bloomer in jest, I'm really saying it intentionally because I was a very late bloomer. The reality is, we bloom at the right time.
Kathi:
Oh, I love that.
Janice:
Right. And doesn't matter how old you are, what part of life you're in. Everything you go through is for you, if you just if you decide that you want to use it, and if you know how. And everybody that comes into your life is a messenger, a mirror that reflects to you how you're doing. Right. (Oh, my gosh, right?) somebody? Yep. And then you the truth of that is we are triggered by things we're good with, and that we have don't have issue with anymore. We're triggered by the things that are still active, that we do have issue with inside us. Yes. Right. So when we, when we are thankful for the bad shit that happens, pardon my language…
You know, and if we're thankful if we learn to have gratitude for the hard times, and the only way to do that is to go look inside those hard times to look within and go, what's the lesson in it for me? That's when you grow. That's when you will never have a regret in your life. If you learn from everything, I don't have a regret. Hmm, I really can't say that because I've worked through all of my stuff. I don't have a right. It's true. (Look, What are y'all getting hot, hot, hot, hot flash. Real.) But I really don't I think about if I had been a different person, then I would have made different choices. Every then was, but regret is a wasted emotion.
Kathi:
It is. And I love how you say that quote again with the bloom. I love that quote, again, when you said…
Janice:
We always bloom at the right time…
Kathi:
We always win with our time. Yeah, I know, I love that so much. I feel like if you can live life like that every day, knowing that things are happening exactly the way they're meant to happen, that it's always gonna work out in your favor, even when you think it's not. Yeah, because so many times, you know, you try to fight it, it's like, but I didn't want that to happen, like, you know, or I wanted that job, or I wanted this relationship to work out or I wanted this business, I did a workout. And then all of a sudden, you're getting called to a different area, or a different person or a different business or a different job. And you're all bent out of shape about it, if you can really be in that moment of this is exactly how it's supposed to be happening for me. It makes it so much easier and so much less stressful, because I just I truly believe that I just believe everything will work out exactly the way it's meant to.
Janice:
The only way the only way I believe people can actually believe that. Yeah, they understand there's a part two, which is I may not know the why now, or I'm in the why may come like this, why something happened. But I will eventually know it. And if I can trust in the knowing that the Why will come at the right time as well, then I can just I can appreciate the fact that the universe was like, Yeah, you're not going to do this for yourself. We're gonna make it happen for you. Oh, yes, yeah. When you get that when you get served with divorce papers, or when you lose that job, or lose the money or whenever the loss is right, that you didn't bank on and that you didn't want. Yeah, the universe is always rearranging and moving things out of your way, so that you can get on the right path.
Kathi:
I know I get goosebumps.
Janice:
First is, you know what, I everything that happens, I take, I take a curiosity with it instead of a conviction about it. That's the biggest thing that I try to help people experiences. Shift into curiosity, ask questions. Interesting that this happen. I always do this when I drive. I'm driving fast. I'd ride fast. Love it. And then a car comes up and slow as molasses in front of me. I'm gonna blend that. Yeah. Okay, I look up and I say, Okay, let me slow down. Let me slow down physically. Yeah, let me slow down here. Because the reason why I'm speeding is because I'm thinking of what I need to do. Yes, yes ahead. And so it's literal and metaphorical. And obviously, thank you, I got it. I got it. So people can quickly shift into that awareness. It's happening for me, the Why will come, then you can go, okay. I don't need to have any resentment or contempt. I can keep doing this thing called life and do it okay.
Kathi:
Oh, my gosh, I love that. What do you think? Like, how long of a process is it when somebody comes to you? And you are helping them just be okay with them? Like being them? How long of a process really is that for them to all of a sudden start to realize that, Okay, it's time to start just being okay with being me and being myself? Like, does it happen fairly quickly?
Janice:
It can happen in a heartbeat. It can happen in a heartbeat. You know, I get the the gift and the luxury of being able to channel a higher vibration and spirit source, right. So I, like I said, I can see things very quickly, they show me the root cause of things very, very quickly. That would take traditional talk, therapy six months, a year, two years to get to shift can happen in a moment, the identification of the limiting belief can happen in a moment. And then the reframe happens, and then all of a sudden, once you take somebody out of a bind, which means that they're stuck between one and two things. In other words, there's no other option. Once you break through that, and you're able to say at least my experiences. What if this is possible? Can you imagine or is it will you take a moment to imagine that maybe there's some other alternatives and the minute that door opens, it's like, boom, the work gets done.
Wow.
So it's all about kind of having lack of a better term, a masterful approach at identifying the limiting beliefs, right? Showing that limiting belief is not true because of the formula that I met you before… And then really looking at the thoughts and fears that they have that caused that belief in the first place, right. And then we get into the heart of things, how true those things are, right and 99.99% of the time. And I'm going to go out on a limb here and say, 100% of the time, our mind lies. And so when we can call those into our consciousness, and then throw them away, and replace them with some powerful ways of thinking, then actually align and sink into the person that I'm working with, not these Bs affirmations that you try to grab people, because those don't mean shit to you. And you're like, saying them over and over and over and over again, they don't work, because they don't belong to you. Once that belong to you, you put your energy behind, and you know, like, Ah, I can do this. So it's, yeah, it's that. And that can happen. 30 seconds.
Kathi:
Wow. That is incredible. I love this kind of stuff. Like, yeah, I know you do. I do this stuff is like, right up my alley. It is. I love it. Oh, my gosh, I have so many. I feel like I have so many questions. And it's already been, but whatever. Yes, I can keep asking. So how would you say having these gifts that you have have helped you like in terms of your business? And there's a part two to those two? Yeah. And people come to you and you help people? How will what you help them with help them? If they own a business? Like what have you seen happen? Or increase or get better? or anything along those lines? Yes. Because of having this intuitiveness and having these gifts? I know, it's a two part question. Sorry.
Janice:
Yeah, I'll start with the first part, I have learned to trust my intuition implicitly, from if I leave the house, and there's just a slight nudge, take your umbrella, I'll take it. Literally that planning when to go on a trip? Or in my business? For sure. Trusting the ideas that come? Also, when I channel, I, as Janice move out of the way. So my ego was not involved at all. Right?
Kathi:
Oh, you ask are you asked to physically ask yourself?
Janice:
Oh, yeah, that's the intention. I said, you know, that this reading, clear, specific, inaccurate, and be bringing blessings to everyone involved, is at the higher mind remain in charge, you might even move out of the way. So you can clearly see here feel and know the Divine Messages that you'd like me to pass on to so and so I set the intention. And I know what it feels like to have my ego mind active because I feel it I my energy immediately goes up here. And also I'm very, very familiar with what be the state of beingness is, which is when when I do my best work when I do my readings in therapy and channeling and, and all of that. And and when I write I love to write. And so I am very, very familiar with what it's like to to not question because some of the most powerful shifts in the readings and the work that I've done with people in therapy have come from saying what comes through. And Spirit gives me the exact wording that in the exact energy and exact tone of voice that will be best received by the person I'm doing my work with.
Kathi:
This is so crazy,
Janice:
Because I'm not in it. Because as you can tell, I have attitude. I'm telling a voice. I can add all sorts of stuff by Janice, but it's not Janice. It's it's the channel and so it's I could say the most direct powerful things due to somebody that would really knock somebody to the knees, but the way it comes through energetically. They receive it without Wow. It's just beyond powerful. It's really really incredible.
Kathi:
That is really incredible. Unbelievable.
Janice:
Yeah, so I I have really learned to listen to the nudges. And if I don't listen, they're going to get louder anyway. So they're going to come back we don't ever miss the right way to do things we don't we would ignore it. Right? We talk ourselves out of it. That's what a lot of people do. And yes seem to their intuition. They do like skewed be that easy. I need to make it more difficult. So I'm not going to believe it. Or I'm not supposed to take a left here out please go this way. It's it's trial and error. And then eventually you realized your intuition is the most trustworthy part of self that you could you could ever rely on. Right?
Kathi:
So like any type of like when you say listen to your intuition, or listen to those nudges like when you gave that example of just like Oh grab the umbrella today first I'm raising, you're constantly listening to those little nudges all day, no matter what you're doing, no matter who you're around and like, you like, you'll have the nudge, like, oh, I should say this to this person right now. And you'll say it. Yes. So for everything,
Janice:
Everything, and advertising, reading for all channels something and light, and typically what I do before I do read or, or work with somebody, I'll have notes, they'll, I'll ask him the theme. And so I'll write things down. And I'll energetically know what to say and what not to say, anywhere, anytime. And I'm familiar with what the because we get intuitive hits civilly. And they come and go. And so it the likelihood that we will dismiss something that's so fleeting, is higher than if we get into a practice of trusting it and taking action on it. That's the other piece is that it's not enough that you go Oh, okay. Yeah, oh, that was a nudge. But it's like, okay, yeah, they're guiding me, boom, I need to take care of that. And most of the time, it can feel completely unrelated to what you're doing. And those are the best things because Spirit is redirecting your attention to do something that may feel like you're wasting time or that isn't as meaningful, so that you can open up your right brain to get the download. That is going to be that million dollar idea, or that's going to help you solve a problem like that. That's that's how the universe works. And so I have been I, I've been my butt has been bitten more times, and not by not trusting it. And like, I'm not having that happen again. Yeah, I'll trust. I'll follow. I'll do it.
Kathi:
Oh my God, that is unbelievable. I love it. Now, this is kind of a little different here. You probably didn't know I was gonna ask these questions. Did you?
Janice:
I love talking about this stuff? I love it. Like, yeah.
Kathi:
No, I love it, too. That's why I was like, let's just see where the conversation goes. Yes. So what about like manifestation? Do you do that? Or is that different?
Janice:
Sure. Sure. So you teach about manifestation. So you know that it's a double edged sword. Yeah, we, we manifest what we focus on. And so I know several people in my life, who they just step from one pile on the turn to the next. And I like so bad. Because it's all you That's all you're focusing on this year. You do expect that right? When we have expectations, a we hinge are we hand your happiness on hopes, right? When we like when we expect miracles, we're in a different vibration than when do we expect the next bad thing to happen? So we are manifesting all the time I do this all the time, I'll drive somewhere, whether it's a grocery or the to the Mongo universe, I'd like blocking space up front, the closest parking space and boom, happens, like thanks, y'all.
We get to manifest that right? We can set our intention at night before we go to bed. Okay, unconscious subconscious. When I wake up, I want to know how to do such and such, or I want to know how to find out how to do such and such. So you're planting the seed for your subconscious to work that out. But we manifest as you teach, and I teach this to manifest positively, and we manifest negatively, it's, there's nothing good or bad. It's just what comes of it. So where you're the end, of course, they should say that everybody knows where your energy flows. Focus goes where your energy flows, energy flows, where your focus goes, are you doing one or the other? Shall we be able to just yeah, if you're somebody who says, oh, you know what I'm saying all these affirmations and I'm doing all the things and nothing's changing. Then nine times out of 10, I'm gonna bank on the fact that your energy is not in alignment with what you really want to manifest, either. There's some limiting belief that either you're afraid of success, afraid of failure, doubt your ability to handle or the stream that you have doesn't belong to you.
God puts dreams in our heart for a reason because they belong to us. Doesn't matter how insurmountable we feel they are, yep, they're there for a reason, because they're possible. And if anybody is a student of metaphysics, right of quantum physics, then you understand that all versions of yourself exist in parallel realms all at the same time. So anything's possible. And your freewill determines the direction that you go in. And it determines who you really become. Ultimately, you are going to zigzag your life to get to where you need to become if you get your get in the way. Have yourself you won't get there. Right? So manifesting. And please feel free to correct or add on. But we manifest all the time. Oh, yeah. All the time. All right, exactly.
Kathi:
So like when you're talking to the universe, for example, about the parking spot, you don't I know, this is like a ridiculous question, right? But for people listening, like, it doesn't matter if you say it out loud or thinking in your head, right? Because right, you feel is gonna happen, but they don't have to physically say these things out loud. Right? They can just steal these thoughts in their mind, right? Yeah, yeah. Yeah,
Janice:
I know. Like, I say, No, I want to, I'm gonna have a front parking spot. Or when I go into the grocery, I can feel whether or not they're gonna have the item that I want.
Kathi:
Yes, I know. I love that. It's so true. So I heard this quote, and I know I might have said it to a while ago, but I don't know who I heard it from. But I know I heard it years ago. And it was that one quote, everything by my divine right comes to me today in perfect order. And I literally say it every day, everywhere I go, doesn't matter where I drive. I like, it's so funny. I'll be with my mom. And she'll be like, Oh, look at that, oh, there's no line in the Starbucks line for you today. And I'm like, that's because everything by my divine right comes to me today in perfect order. It's kind of it's kind of like a running joke now. But it is seriously so accurate. It's crazy. I love it.
Janice:
I love it. And that's kind of about the expectation of miracles happening. Miracles are big and small. Right? Miracles, can we get my God, you know, I am open to infinite money making opportunities that are aligned with my greatest good, beautiful. And so you may get an email or phone call. And you're like, what was that connected? I don't know, how do I get more signed universe, you know. So they again, it comes very subtly and quickly when you are clear. In certain there's an energy of certainty. There's an energy of trust that that you have, where things come fast.
Kathi:
Oh, my gosh, I love that. It's so good. So good. I'm going to do a part two here with you.
Janice:
I love that I love talking to them
Kathi:
Because I have about a bajillion other questions to ask, but oh my gosh, so this has been so amazing. Thank you so much. Why don't you share so you have a free live training coming up in early May? Why don't you tell us what the name of that is, when it is a little bit about it, who it's for what they're gonna get out of it. And then I'll make sure that we have all of this to in the show notes for our listeners.
Janice:
I was telling you before, like, I'm working on connecting the link. So when you put your email information in, you're gonna get to the right pages. So that doesn't work. But my upcoming free live training. I'm very, very, very excited about this coming in May. I haven't decided on the exact date in a bit. It's kind of like the second week, but it's called midlife mentality makeover. And it's for the woman who wants to reignite your passion, purpose and personal power after the age of 50. It really is. It's a great lead in to my awakening align program. This is a six week course. And so we go into all of that, but I really help women with three things in this training. The first is to really understand what reigniting passion, purpose and personal power after the age of 50 is what that looks like. Second is really what the framework of midlife mentality makeover is the 40s. And then I go into how to achieve inner peace, self acceptance, so that you can feel free. So that's part of this midlife mentality makeover.
Kathi:
That is amazing. Oh my gosh. So you gotta get yourself in there for that for sure. Yeah, absolutely. And we'll make sure your email is in the shownotes. Thank you so much for being here today. Did you have anything that you wanted to leave the listeners with today? Any last thing thoughts that we may…
Janice:
I wanted to say until I get my link up, please hop on my website, Janicercohen.com. You'll see a pop up, enter your name and address get that free report how to overcome the fear judge because I do believe that's one a big piece that we as women overall worry about but but also in our 50s that will get you on my mailing list until I can send you my my link.
But I want women to know that you are way more powerful than you realize. It doesn't matter where you are in your life, what age, what you've been through what mistakes you've made, the things that you regret. You get to have a do over every day. And we women we get clearer and clearer about who we are as we grow and as we as we get older. And so this time in your life, any women in any part of your life If your goal is to know that you can achieve what it is you want to achieve, you trust yourself and learn to trust yourself. You deal with the beliefs that you have that have held you back. And you connect with that future self that is living the life that you want. Yes, and you're golden.
Kathi:
Oh, I love it. That was beautiful. Well, thank you so much Janice for being on today. Where can people find you? I know we have your email. Is there an Instagram okay are and your podcast?
Janice:
I have Instagram and I believe it or not, I forgot my instagram handle. So I'm gonna get it. I am getting back on this year. But you can find my podcast The Intuitive Therapist Podcast, you can look it up as that the intuitive therapist podcast on iTunes, and Spotify right now. So go ahead and subscribe. I've been doing my podcast for seven years is a lot of great content. And so please feel free to follow your intuition. Trust your intuition and pick the titles that seem to to resonate with you. And as I always say at the end of my podcast, always slim, intuitive.
kathi:
Oh my gosh, I love that. Thank you so much, Janice for being here today and taking the time. I know the listeners are going to love this. Thank you for listening in today my friend to Do Life Big. You know, I love you think you're awesome. And I will see you the next time. Bye.
